Archive for May, 2013

Last week I got a day’s work in a primary school teaching sport.
Grade fours.
At one stage I sat them down as they were making mistakes with a drill we were doing and I explained the meaning of a turnover and a turnaround.
A turnover is when the other team gets the ball and a turnaround is when a match turns around in favour of the other team.
Later on that day I explained the meaning of the Aussie rules “hospital kick.” A hospital kick is a kick that sits in mid-air and leaves the player standing underneath, waiting for the ball. Basically waiting to go to hospital.

Life lessons
A turnover is when you give power to someone else. A turnaround usually occurs after this. Knowing what you want from life helps. The only turnaround we should all be interested in is a positive turn around.
From bad to good.
A hospital kick in life is a decision made and action taken that ends with a bad result. The second you deliver a football you know it has turned into a hospital kick.
In life you know when you have made a bad decision. Life hospital kicks are inevitable but it becomes easier to recognise them after a while.

The intelligent player enjoys the game, never does a hospital kick, never experiences a turnover of control to anyone and consequently never experiences a turnaround.

Lessons all around us.


I have created this list as a result of looking at several lives that were wasted.

Lives that ended in suicide.

In the days after, there were signs that the person had given up. It is a sad and traumatic experience to go through a person’s room after they made the final heart-breaking choice.
However we can learn from what we see.

There are signs.

A bed unmade.
Dishes not done.
Jobs unfinished.

It is logical to think that if you don’t let the signs appear in the first place, you can avoid the result.
If you look around you and all is well, you will feel well.
If you look around you and all is in disarray and untidy, all will seem pointless.

A list to avoid depression…
Firstly, clean your house.
1 Have a job
2 Have friends of both sexes
3 Meditate
4 Volunteer to help the poor or disabled
5 Eat well
6 Fake being happy
7 Read
8 Exercise every day
9 Walk
10 Car pool to work

Action first.
Feel better second.



Every day someone openly admits they have depression.

This time it’s a famous martial arts identity.

Jeff Thompson’s book, “Watch My Back” was the first of 40 books. He has made feature films, written plays and his ideas on how we can understand and control fear make riveting reading. In a recent interview he talks of doing things to rid himself of this unwanted emotion, like getting a black belt in karate. He admits, “I always had fear and negative thought processes and thought they would disappear when I got a black belt. All it did was make me a black belt with fear.” He also spent many years standing on the door of violent pubs in England because it scared him.

I remember being a teenager and thinking I was the only one who was scared. The only one who was worried about how other people would see me.

Well, 30 years has passed and thanks to conversations I’ve had with other fifty-year olds, it seems everyone was doubtful in those days. Doubtful about their confidence, and struggled with their internal dialogue. The voice that is your best friend occasionally becomes the bully from school.

Where does this come from?

It’s like the panic of not being able to find your car keys. You’re looking everywhere for something that’s going to make you feel better.
Retrace your steps.
“I know it’s here somewhere.”

But let’s get back to Jeff Thompson. With a constant battle with depression the only break you get is when you are too busy to think. Hence 40 books. FORTY! My first thought was, “Where did you get the time to write 40 books?”
But where does any high functioning person get the time to practice and refine a skill so it is world level? Simple – they obsess about it all day and sometimes all night.

Like you and I.

We think about our next career move, our wish to write a book, to climb to Everest base camp and to BASE jump. We start to read a book on it and after awhile it sits on the pile of aother books that we haven’t finished.

Well, I have an idea. Don’t collect unfinished jobs. Collect accomplishments.

Do stuff that make you smile at night, in your darkest hour, when you need a boost of confidence.

I have one. It’s here. Dam I am proud of it.

Join me.