Archive for February, 2014

Habits And Mindset

Posted: February 23, 2014 in Buddhism, Change, Habits
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Some time ago I was interviewed by a multi millionaire. We had worked out that the reasons for success in martial arts and wealth creation were the same. It was all about habits and mindset.

Success in both these fields, we found, was all about having a positive mindset and understanding that setbacks were necessary and unavoidable. The funny thing is, the setback is what creates the mindset. It’s the lesson learnt. You take a hit, experience pain, and change your game plan to avoid it next time.
The trick is to stick at it after the setback.
That’s all.
No secret.

The trick according to Buddhist philosophy is wisdom and knowledge. Wisdom comes from knowledge of life. The knowledge of cause and effect. The cause of suffering and happiness. The actions that create less suffering and more happiness.
Wisdom through knowledge.
Mindset through setback.
Same thing.

I thought I was smart when I worked this out then I realised that Buddha thought of it 2500 years ago.

I ain’t so smart.

To listen to part one of the interview, look up martial arts training in the pod cast section of the iTunes library.
Or go to:


If the destination isn’t clear, why start walking?
Problem is that sometimes the destination doesn’t become clear until after you start walking. It’s all about perspective.
When I wrote my blog about the meaning in life it was really supposed to be about what was going on inside of me. Since then, I have had many replies and comments. All of them remarked that it was an opinion that they share. That it was about them. The internal dialogue that I talked about seems to be the common thread that links us all. Makes us human.

Apparently the trait that separates us as humans from animals is to do with thinking. Animals think and we think. The difference is that we know we are thinking.
(Or so we suspect. Maybe they are just keeping quiet.)
So it’s control over our thoughts that is the key.

Our happiness, suffering, contentment, struggles, calmness and upsets are more to do with how we process events than the actual event.
This means the millionaire and the homeless man are both the same.
Its more about their enjoyment of where they are right now. That is all.

Old head on young shoulders?
When I was in my 20s I was a fitness instructor. One client I met was in his 70s and had a triple bypass operation. I was worried about how hard to push him and expected to see a decrepit old man. Old he was.
Decrepit? Far from it.
He bound down the hallway towards me and stuck out his hand. “G’day young fella”, was his jovial greeting.
Even then, my young brain surging with testosterone and ego, registered that here was someone who was happy in his own skin. Happier than me. Like he knew something I didn’t.
Well, 30 years has passed. I’ve had sporting success, marriage, fatherhood, divorce, business success, depression and many other excitements have passed. I’ve even had open heart surgery myself. How would I tell myself 30 years ago what I know now? What could I say to make a difference in my young life? What could I say to make a difference in your life?
Only one thing. There’s more to it than what you are experiencing right now.
Much more.
Knowing this – and that all situations and feelings pass – gives us contentment.
Best of luck to you.


3 days later
It’s my birthday in 13 days.

My first birthday.

Actually the truth is I am 51 but it will be a year to the day that my heart stopped for four hours. On purpose.
You see to replace part of a failing heart with titanium, it has to be stationary.
So now as a heart valve recipient I have a new lease on life physically but a massive change came over me emotionally after the operation. I suppose many people who have had a life or death experience feel the same. (more…)

I am looking for some company …. Online company.

No, its not what you think.

I know I’m not alone but right now this page tells me I am. My ‘page of meaning’ outlines 3 areas of my life that I really care about.

More importantly it outlines what I’m doing about it. You see, mental problems are a result of looking within yourself. Looking at your opinions of the world.
Focusing on others overrides inward focus on self.  (more…)