Archive for the ‘Suicide’ Category

Not ‘Funny Ha Ha’… but ‘Funny Strange’.

Example:
When your life is in danger you will do anything to avoid the impending trauma.
But in the absence of a threat, we question what it’s all for.

Confused? Me too.

Enter Kevin Briggs, a California law enforcement officer whose beat covers The Golden Gate bridge. Kevin has talked to hundreds of people as they stood looking down at the water 245 feet (75 metres) below, ready to jump. His estimations are that he has dissuaded over 200 people from the suicidal leap. Of those that did and survived (low percentage) they all said that the moment they jumped, they wish they hadn’t. THAT doesn’t make sense.

More than 1,400 people have jumped off the bridge since it opened in 1937 with only 2% surviving the fall and of that small slice only 4% were able to walk again, according to the Golden Gate Bridge transit district.

Sometimes we need to turn to a professional to get some perspective when grappling with some of life’s deep questions. So let’s get some advice from Mr. Victor Frankl, a trained Psychologist and Neurologist who happened to live in Austria during the 2nd World War and was sent to Auschwitz concentration camp. When the average life span of a concentration camp detainee was somewhere between 3 weeks and 3 months, Mr. Frankl survived 3 years.
As a trained psychologist, his assessment of those that died and those that lived made him realise happiness is not the key. Meaning is. Those that find meaning for their existence are much better off than those that chase happiness.
His theory is called Logotherapy where meaning is the ‘primary motivational force in life’.

Aaah, now that is starting to make sense.

So let’s look at the meaning that others have found. Here are 5 examples of people who found a cause that drives them:
1) Adam Braun – Adam started Pencils of Promise where he builds schools for impoverished kids in third world countries.
2) Sam Kahamba Kutesa – This year Sam was elected President of the United Nations General Assembly’s sixty-ninth session. His vision of our world is far greater than any of our day to day headaches.
3) Al Gore – Mr Gore lost the US Presidential election but then went on to become the world’s foremost speaker on climate change. Instead of reflecting on his losses, he focussed on the job he had in front of him.
4) David Bryant – After retirement as a teacher and school principal, David found himself directionless. Shortly after he volunteered for a position teaching poor children in the Maldives. His passion for giving came back in an instant and at an age when others slow down, David is travelling and making a difference.
5) Team Hoyt – Fathering a cerebral palsy child is enough to give anyone meaning in their life. But Dick Hoyt motivates thousands if not millions of athletes by pushing or towing his son in countless triathlons and marathons. He says that his son Rick’s smile as they cross the finish line gives him motivation every day.

What next?

Search. Search for something that keeps you awake at night.
Something that will have you up at 5 in the morning motivated to make a difference.
Find a cause that upsets you.
Or one that fires you up.
Then find out how to act.
Then, commit.
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Get Victor Frankl’s Book by clicking on this link: Man’s Search for Meaning, Gift Edition

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Knowing Your End Date

Posted: August 23, 2014 in Depression, Suicide, Survival

In Thaiboxing, the brutal national sport of Thailand, fighters fight full contact for 5 x 3 minute rounds. Blood is plentiful. Knockouts a regular event. Lots of money and bright futures for the winners.

Now an interesting phenomenon happens in the last round when a fight is one-sided. Quite often the winner will stay stay away from the loser saving them both injury. They effectively “give up the fight” knowing the end is near and the result obvious. Plus they want to fight again the next week.
Pretty logical.
So is it giving up when the end is in sight and the result is obvious. Is that what Robin Williams did? Was it as rational as the action of the Thai fighter? (more…)

But the importance of your role must be obvious to you. Not others. YOU.

Notice I said “Critical”. Making life merely valuable will only ensure you exist from one day to the next. That is no way to go through life. 

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Motivated By Pleasure

Posted: March 22, 2013 in Suicide
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It’s now 15 months since my friend took his own life.
He had a great idea every day of the week. A creative genius. Good with his hands. A magnetic personality. Enthusiasm that burnt your face if you stood too close.
The problem is, the ideas came so thick and fast that he became surrounded by unfinished dreams.
Enter depression.
Each time he had a new creative seizure, he would courageously climb out of his depression and leap into the next venture. Motivated by the pleasure of the new idea and escaping the pain of the last idea.
What he lacked was a reality filter.
My advice? “Don’t quit your day job mate”.
What I meant was to keep your feet on the ground and not jeopardise progress you made in the past.
The problem with that advice is that it’s hard to sail over the horizon if you don’t want to leave the safety of the port. It’s like the story of the ancient army who came ashore to challenge their enemy. The first thing the general ordered as they were coming ashore was to burn the boats.
No way home.
This gave them no other choice. Either victory or death.
That’s what my friend chose. Victory or death.
I wish he had never burnt his boat.

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