Posts Tagged ‘success’

The number of people who blame their childhood on their problems is huge. They say, “If I had a better start in life I wouldn’t have all these problems”. Well, every day you get a fresh start but it isn’t that easy. Our childhood trauma lingers in the form of memories that trigger the original feelings that we experienced. 
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If there is one story that defines what goes on inside me – then it is this. It is reproduced from my martial arts blog:

This next piece is going to be a confession of sorts.
Honesty that is not usually spoken out loud but takes place in all of us at some stage.

The situation took place recently.

My instructor stood at the front of the class with his highest ranks next to him. I was one of them. He announced to the class that there were some brown belts looking at black belt and how excited he was at the prospect. The black belt on my left nudged me, as if to say the instructor was talking about me. I looked at him and shook my head as if to say, “No he doesn’t mean me.”

Hang on, why not?

And where did that negativity come from?

Then I thought maybe I am my own worst enemy when it comes to backing my judgement and belief in myself. Maybe I am holding myself back from going to the next level. Maybe focusing on what I have achieved is stopping me from what I can achieve in the future.

Ouch, that’s ego.

Surely not me. Surely after 30 years plus of training I would possess the tenacity of a lion when it comes to achievement in any martial art. What happened was the ‘human’ side of me surfaced. The voice of the teenager who originally started martial arts to become confident still sits in there. Refusing to admit that this alter ego no longer exists is the same as believing that your instructor was always a black belt. Everyone struggles. Everyone has self doubt. Those who stick with their struggles overcome them in the long run. It is just a matter of time.

The Rain Dance
Researchers some time ago heard about a tribe in Africa that had a 100% success rate with their rain dance. Other tribes recorded a 50/50 success rate (sometimes it rained, sometimes it didn’t!) When they tracked down this tribe, they looked at the type of dance, the location, the words they used and everything they did in their particular ritual. Everything matched what other tribes did. They found no reason to have such an incredible record. Then one variable surfaced that made all the difference. They danced UNTIL it rained. So as humans wanting to achieve, it seems we underestimate the power of Osu No Seishin – Perseverance Under Pressure.

So what now?

Keep moving. The confidence and calmness that you desire lies on the other side of difficulty. Your instructors job is to present that difficulty. Your job is to confront it.

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Change or be changed

Hot day today in Western Australia.

Plus a super storm also ripped through the Philippines.

It seems that the small things we did for the last few decades (at least) have had a profound effect on our life today. With global warming now an obvious fact, we are looking to the things that we can do today that will make a difference in the future.

Problem is, the changes we make today will have no effect tomorrow. We act now and nothing changes. We may even be worse off. It’s still hot in the frying pan.

It will take daily effort … for decades … to cause a turnaround.

Drop Falling into Water

The same applies for any negative situation in your life. Any emotion that you are experiencing today took years for it to become an automatic response. It probably made sense in the beginning. You were hungry so you cried and were fed. Seems easy. Next time you are hungry, you know what to do.

Comes a time though that the old tricks don’t work. You see many years of small decisions created your current situation. Finances, your circle of friends, your intelligence … everything. Problem is, any small changes you make today will have minimal effect tomorrow. The reward will gradually materialise over the long term. So why do some realise this and not others? Or closer to the point, why do I realise this sometimes and not other times.

Recently I wrote about the habits of the extremely successful. Little things done daily that the majority of people dream up excuses for. Success came to those who faced these daily decisions and triumphed over them. Staying strong in the face of laziness and apathy.

So now you know. If you want to change something about yourself it takes a small action repeated every day. That’s all. Just do it. (That seemed to be easy to say)

Back to global warming. Small acts repeated regularly bring dramatic change in the long run. That’s what it takes. Appropriate day today as it is the National Day of Climate Action as organised by activist groups including GetUp, the Australian Youth Climate Coalition and the Australian Conservation Foundation.

Big ideas over time are created by many, many repeated acts. Whether you like it or not.

Change or be changed.

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Muhammad Ali ran 6 miles in heavy boots at 5.30am every morning. Cold, hot, rain or snow, he ran.

Steven King, possibly the worlds most successful writer, writes ten pages of notes a day. Every day. Even holidays.

Thomas Edison had a nap every day …. for 3 hours!

Richard Branson has a habit of starting before he is ready.

Bill Gates’ mantra is, “When you find a good idea act on it right away.”

Success in any field is all about regularly carried out habits.

Habits that take place on a regular basis. Every day or at least every second day. The point is the regularity. You see, brilliance doesn’t occur over night. It gradually grows under your feet. It develops so slowly that the change is imperceptible. It develops into a block of concrete that can withstand change and turmoil. Habits are the DNA that brilliance is made of.

But what about happiness? Does this apply to our emotional well-being? I argue that it does. Regular habits reward us in more ways than just financial profit. It buoys our self esteem and lifts our spirits. You see, every time we carry out a habit, we honour a promise we made to ourself. The return on our investment is a raised self perception.

If this is true, what kind of habits are we talking about? This is where our topic gets really interesting. Interesting because it is simple. The answer is right under your feet. The habits that you should adopt now are the ones that you are capable of. Just do what you can. Regularly.

Olympic runners train their minds and bodies every day. They concentrate on what they are capable of which is regularity and small improvements. You are capable of exactly the same thing. Regularity and small improvements.

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 This is a quote from Seth Godin from his book, “The Icarus Deception“.
We all have habits. Seth Godin points out that we can choose which ones we will keep and which ones are to be left behind. He talks about the fact that we are all capable of being brilliant. The proof is that we have performed brilliant feats in the past. He states that, “All that’s left is to figure out how to create habits so you can do it more often.”Commitment to your commitmentHow many New Year’s Eve resolutions have disappeared by the end of January? Most of them. The resolution is not the issue. The commitment to the resolution is the missing ingredient.

So how do we keep ourselves accountable?

Here are 4 ways:

1 Tell someone you are doing it. The embarrassment we will suffer upon failure will prompt us to continue.

2 Like-minded individuals. Surrounding yourself with others who have made the same promise helps. It may be a regular group meeting, and app, or even a phone call every week to say, “Well, did you do it?”

3 Do it first. As soon as you get up. What ever the promise is, get it over and done with. A famous question in sales is, “How do you eat a frog?” First thing in the morning is the answer. Otherwise you think about the (unpleasant) task all day.

4 Constant reminders. Screen savers, laminated photos in the shower, a picture in the car or even an elastic band around the wrist. Side tracking yourself with other urgencies is the opponent who is keen to see your goals drown in a sea of ‘busyness’ Don’t fall for it.

I took my kids to Thailand a few years ago. Two weeks before leaving it was needle time. We were called into the nurses’ station and we were asked, “Who’s first?”

“Me,” was the instant answer from my 13 year old son. He knew. The more you think about it, the worse it gets.

Do it now.

Announce it in our comments section below.

I dare you.